We all have been taught, “honesty is the best policy”. That is true, to a certain degree.

When it comes to online dating, some things are better left unsaid...at least in the early stages of the “relationship”.

Based on my extensive experience with online dating, this is what not to tell:

Do not tell them, that each of your children have a different mother/father.

Do not tell them you can’t afford cable, so you “share” your neighbor’s cable.

Do not tell them you’re really not sure who you father is.

Do not tell your online love you are in the process of being evicted.
(“I’m in the process of relocating. You may not be able to contact me for a few days.”)

Do not tell them you lost your job because your drug test was “dirty”.
(The problem may not be that you are a social drug user. The problem is you’re dumb enough to get caught!)

Do not tell them you never cook and that you live on fast food. (They have a mental fantasy of you being a fantastic cook and homemaker! Don’t burst their bubble so soon...)

Do not tell your online love you have mice, roaches and bedbugs. (Even though it may not be your fault, it still makes you seem nasty!)

Do not tell them you are about to inherit a large sum of money. In the beginning, you may not be able to tell if they are interested in you or your good fortune.

Do not make offers where you appear to be overly generous. (“You said you need a place to stay? You can stay here as long as you like! Rent? Don’t even worry about it!”) It makes you look really desperate and easy to take advantage of.

Do not begin the relationship by telling your online love all of the many ways you were traumatized as a child. (“I was molested for years...” “I was locked in the basement for days without food...” “my mother would get drunk and beat me for no reason...”) Instead of getting sympathy? They may feel you have too much emotional baggage, and they may not be willing to deal with it.

I am not telling you to lie to anyone. But when it comes to the truth about issues that are extremely personal, you want to wait until you feel this person cares enough to really care. (Does that make sense?) Everyone is not worthy enough to have a “key” to that intimate, personal part of your life. Just remember: In the beginning, there are some things you tell and some things you do not tell your online love!